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The sad fact is, this is a huge waste of time and energy because deciphering whether or not a guy likes you is incredibly simple. Every day, on Facebookin the comments section, in the forumin my inbox … day in and day out I hear variations of the same question: Does he like me? How does he feel about me? Is he committed to me? It really is as simple as that, but I know people love to look at s, because that just makes it more tangible and easier to see.
He might not be saying anything with his words, but his body language will let you know exactly where he stands.
This makes sense. Men are visual creatures. Next, he makes eye contact and stares at your face when talking to you. His eyes may bounce for your eyes to your lips and back again. He will also lean in when talking to you and angle his body facing you. He may also preen a bit when he sees you. He may fix his hair, straighten his tie, straightening his shirt. This is another reflexive thing we do because… well, he wants to look his best for you. Make sure to read this article for the exact body language s that mean he likes you.
1. body language cues
We covered this a bit in the section on body language cues, but it bears repeating and going into more depth. When a guy likes you, he will look at you.
When talking to him, he will most likely make eye contact. This is probably the most intimate you can be with a person without actually being intimate. If you want to do a test, try to hold his gaze for four seconds.
Exactly how to know if a guy likes you for sure
What if his eyes are shifty and all over the place? You can also pay attention to his pupils. Studies have found when people look at something or someone they like, their pupils will dilate. Finally, look at what he does after making a joke or telling a funny story. Pay attention when he talks to you. Does he talk about himself? Does he tell you about his accomplishments or achievements? If so, he likes you and is trying to prove himself a worthy candidate. Also, watch how he reacts when you say things.
Does he lean in closer, maybe gently stroke your back? Or does he look away and shift uncomfortably as if looking for an excuse to exit the conversation? A guy who does like you will welcome all intrusions with open arms!
Pay attention to all s of physical touch. The point is, he will find ways to make your bodies meet. Also, pay attention to how he reacts when you touch him. Does he tense up and back away, or is he warm an receptive?
The caveats here are he might be a shy, awkward type of guy and maybe feels extra nervous when touching a girl he likes. Or he might be a playboy who welcomes female physical affection in any form with wide open arms.
Again, look at the full picture, not the tiny pieces. When a guy likes you, you will have a different status in his life, and he will treat you differently.
2. eye contact eye contact eye contact!
He may act a little protective toward you, like holding your hand when walking down steep stairs, angling his body to almost shield you when walking through a crowd, and just looking out for you. Pay attention to the way he acts with other people and compare that to the way he behaves around you. Even the most confident guy will get a little nervous around a woman he likes.
Just take silent comfort in the fact that you make him nervous. Again, take it into context. But if the nervous guy gets extra nervous around you, then he probably likes you. And he uses those interests as a means to get to know you better. He may dig a little deeper and ask more questions.
1. watch his body language
This is another major he likes you. When we like someone, we want to know everything about them. Mirroring is a subconscious thing we do when we like someone. It basically means he copies your actions.
The biggest s a guy likes you
He may mirror your or the way you cross your arms. A good way to show reciprocal interest is to mirror him. Touch your face when he touches his, shift your stance when he angles left, cross your legs in the same direction as his, etc. Him wanting to be in our close vicinity is another major. Remember in elementary school when a guy would pull your pigtails to show he liked you?
Well, not much has changed except the ways of teasing have become a little more refined. But we never really grow up all that much!
If a guy likes you, he will playfully tease you. He may playfully punch your arm or playfully tease you for a stain on your shirt or something else silly and innocuous like that. Just beware of a guy who gets a little carried away with the teasing. If he crosses the line from teasing to being aggressive, then stay away. If he likes you, he most likely told his friends about you.
The point is, your name has come up in conversation! Pay attention to how his friends react to you. Is there recognition? Do they just seem to know a lot about you? A new haircut, a new sweater, a new makeup look, he notices any time you tweak your appearance. You know, he knows, everyone around you knows. That is really the only you need. The that trumps all others. I talk about this a lot more later in the article, so keep going. Are you wasting your time on a dead end, or do you need to just wait it out a little longer before landing in relationship-ville? I would entertain every possible scenario except for the obvious … that maybe he was into me, but not enough for it to matter.
I know how hard it is not to take such things personally. Another reason a lot of us get so confused in this realm is that we cling to the vision of how we want things to be, rather than seeing what is. You want a relationship with him, so you cling to any that he wants the same thing. You focus exclusively on tiny pieces of the puzzle instead of putting it all together to see the larger picture.
When looked at individually, a puzzle piece can be completely ambiguous, so you create your own interpretation of what it means.
The reality is that by playing emotional detective, you usually only succeed in doing one thing: driving yourself absolutely crazy! Men, in general, are goal-oriented. They see something they want and they pursue it.
When a guy likes youhe is drawn to you. He wants to be around you, he finds reasons to talk to you, he becomes a presence in your life, and he gives you a special kind of attention that no one else is given. He lights up around you, he is excited to see you, he loves spending time with you, and he wants to get to know you more.