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We now know that hormones and chemicals influence our decision-making and interpretation of events. So, what is that feeling—and is love at first sight real?
Science and reason tell us love at first sight is actually lust at first sight. Apologies, Romeo. First impressions are incredibly powerful and real experiences. Our brains take between one tenth of a second and half a minute to establish a first impression. Ned Presnall, a LCSW and nationally recognized expert on mental healthcategorizes this moment as part of the approach-avoidance conflict. The only problem? Professor Todorov says humans tend to stick to first impressions even after time has passed or we learn new, contradicting information.
Love at first sight can actually be a "positive illusion" you and your partner create yourselves.
This is known as the halo effect. CohenPhD. Helen Fisher and her team of scientists at Rutgers University blame the brain for this halo effect—and more. They say the three of love are lust, attraction and attachment. Lust is often the initial stage and the one most closely linked with love at first sight. When we lust after someone, our brains tell our reproductive systems to produce extra testosterone and estrogen. Attraction is next.
Lust, evolution and first impressions
Fueled by dopamine, a reward hormone directly associated with addiction, and norepinephrine, the fight or flight hormone, attraction characterizes the honeymoon phase of a relationship. Interestingly, love at this stage can actually lower our serotonin levels, resulting in suppressed appetite and larger mood swings. These feel-good, drop-everything-to-be-with-them hormones convince us we are experiencing true love. Technically, we are! The hormones and the feelings they produce are real. After we actually get to know a partner over a lengthier period of time, we find out if lust has grown into attachment.
During attachment, our brains produce more oxytocin, a bonding hormone that is also released during childbirth and breastfeeding.
1. you feel butterflies in the stomach when together
The ones that do exist focus heavily on heterosexual relationships and stereotypical gender roles. So, take the following with a grain of salt. The most frequently quoted study comes from the University of Groningen in the Netherlands. Researcher Florian Zsok and his team found love at first sight does not occur frequently. When it occurred in their study, it was based overwhelmingly on physical attraction. Even then, Zsok and his team labeled these instances as outliers.
Which makes it more likely that love at first sight is a highly personal, solitary experience.
Couples who insist they fell in love at first sight may be retroactively applying that label to their initial meeting. Indulge that instinct but beware of the halo effect. Since reciprocal love at first sight is even rarer than experiencing it on your own, pay close attention if you continue making eye contact with the same person over the course of an evening.
Direct eye contact is incredibly powerful. Britney Blair, who is board certified in sexual medicine and is the Chief Science Officer of the sexual wellness app Loverwarns against letting personal narratives take over in the chemistry department. Laura Louis, a d psychologist and owner of Atlanta Couple Therapyadvises looking for these s in the other person, too.
When in doubt, give it time. Love at first sight is an exciting, romantic notion, but definitely not the only way to meet the partner of your dreams. Just ask Juliet. We Ask Hamptons Chicago San Francisco. Connect With Us. Are you sure you want to remove this item from your Recipe Box?
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